Saturday, May 31, 2008

Remembering



For a Christmas present in 1988 Rick's brother Gary gave us a wonderful present. He gave our family a trip to Sea World. The kids were all young and we would not have been able to afford such a wonderful trip. You may wonder why I would remember this now? I have always remembered the trip. How much fun we had with the kids. How much they loved it. There are so many memories from that weekend. Thanks Gary, you have always done so much for us.
We went back this past weekend. Rachel, Haylee, Brett and Brittany and Rick and I. Aaron had to work, we were disappointed that he could not join us. The memories came back into my mind on many occasions. When we went to the dolphins and watched them swim. We feed the sea lions, watched Shamu. Then we went to the Mexican Market and walked around, took pictures, even got 1 of Haylee with a hat on. Here a a few pictures of 1989 in the spring. Rachel and Brittany will probably post the other pictures.

Wednesday, May 28, 2008

Welcome Eden



Lon and Stephanie Kreger had their baby girl on Saturday May 24. What a blessing for them. Her name is Eden Meridith Kreger. How thrilled Meridith would be. How kind and thoughtful for Lon and Stephanie to name her after Meridith. And they even spelled it right(you know how Meridith was about her name). How she would beat Lon if he didn't. (Love ya Lon.) Stephanie looks for beautiful holding her. Thanks to Stephanie's sister we got to see other pictures. What a great family. How lucky Eden is to be born into this great family.

Monday, May 12, 2008

Its been two years

I miss you Meridith.

May 12

Two years ago forever changed our family. We often speak of things in reference of before Meridith died and since Meridith died. Rick went to a baptism on Sat for a family and a year or so ago they had a family member die as well. Terry told Rick that its just a different normal. Which it is. As I look back over the last 2 years I think about the blessings that happened. First when Brett, Luke, and Meridith were in the accident, Brett's first concern was were Meridith was. When he found her, she was not breathing, He being a worthy priesthood holder thought first to give her a blessing. There in the ravine on the freeway he blessed her. Meridith came to and Brett carried her to the top. People in Mexico driving on the toll road stopped and helped and let him use their cell phones to call the US. When he first called me Rachel and I were eating lunch in Irving by the airport( I had been at work, had a break, and had to go back). I know it had to be a difficult call to make. He told me that he and Meridith had been in a accident and they were taking Meridith to the hospital and I needed to come. I told he that we would be there as soon as we could. Rachel was with me and we went outside and I called Rick (he and his brothers were playing golf). Oddly enough Rick had his cell phone and it rang, usually he silences it. He answered it right away. I told him and he and his brothers left right away. I told Rachel that I just wanted to see her alive one more time. She said MOM it'll be ok. I told her I didn't think so. I went back to work and found a supervisor and told him what had happened. I told him that I would stay there, that my family was packing my bag and would bring it to me. I went to work for a few minutes and went back to talk to him again, He gave me the number for the US embassy in Mexico, I called Rick with it.
Meridith was alive when the ambulance got there. Brett held her hand and sung to her while the rushed her to the hospital. I know that other things happened during that ride, things that Brett can not and will not talk about. Meridith died just before they reached the hospital. I know that the next phone call that he made to tell Rick Meridith died had to be the hardest call ever. I called Rick to find out if they had heard form Brett, they told me that they had not but I probably should come home and pack to get ready since the flight was not until about 6pm. I asked Rachel if everything was ok, she said yes, and I made her promise. That was hard for her because she already knew and had to lie to me so that I could make it home ok.
I drove home and called Nora, as we talked I told Nora that I didn't think that I would see Meridith alive again. She said that she would be ok. I said I don't think so. The traffic was the normal traffic there on 820 (for those of you who drive it) Friday afternoon I don't remember 2-3:30 I think. I took me a while to get home. Everyone was worried. I got home and Rick came out to the garage, I knew that Meridith was gone. He never said the words, But I knew. Rachel had called the Bishop's wife. Alison gave Rachel his cell phone number right away, poor Rachel she just lost her sister and had a new baby, but since she is my daughter she started to get things arranged.
Rick called the embassy in Mexico, because Brett had been informed that he was going to be arrested unless he told the police Meridith as driving. The embassy told Rick to tell Brett that he should no longer speak Spanish. Which we thought was odd since Brett speaks it quite well. But if you speak the language then the embassy cannot be there for you through the legal process. Brett had to tell the ambulance drivers that he was instructed to not speak Spanish. The police officer came and took Brett and Luke with him to wait for the Consulate agent to get there. Little did he know he had already been arrested.
Bishop Shuldberg came over and so did our wonderful home teacher Brother Arhets, Rick and I both were given blessings before we left for the airport. Rick's brothers were here and so was my mother. Rick's brother Gary lives in Colorado, he left that evening to drive back home to pick his family up just to back here for Meridith's funeral. Darrell was here what a help he was, he held Haylee was everything was going on which helped Rachel alot.
When we went to the airport, I knew that I couldn't wait in the line and I knew many of the agents working in the terminal, I went to the agent and told them that I needed them to check me in and that our daughter had died and we were leaving to get there. When we got to the gate the supervisor that I had spoken to earlier and the manager on duty who I did not know were there to tell me goodbye and let me know that they cared. When we arrived in Cancun they had a supervisor meet us and get us through customs and immigrations quickly and put us in a taxi to the hotel. Sometime between the airport and hotel I lost my passport. The embassy told us not to go that night to the city in which Brett and Meridith and Luke were because of the fires. So we went to the hotel and the manager had already been notified and he meet us and took us to the room, did some of Brett's laundry for me since we did not know how long we would be there. In the mean time Brett is calling Rachel and they are arresting him and the car rental company is wanting to be paid for the car and we can not be reached. Finally we decide to go to where Brett is and the hotel manager takes us to the bus and taxi station. There is not a bus that takes us directly there so he speaks to the taxis to find on that can take us there. We start driving and it is about 2 hours away. The air is so smoked filled that we could hardly breathe. I finally covered my face with my shirt and went to sleep. In this small town there are 3 different types of police stations. Federal, state and local. We of course don't speak spanish and they don't speak english. We finally got to the right one and after signing the papers, who knows what we agreed to, gave them our thumb prints and the money to have Brett released we were back on our way. The car just barley fit the 4 of us(plus the driver). We stopped back by were the accident happened. I know that this was hard for Brett, we found Luke's notebook and one of Meridith's shoes. We then went straight to the airport and had them put Luke on his flight back to Texas. While here Rachel and Aaron are trying to hold things together. Being out of range with cell phones, having a 6 month old baby and losing a sister Rachel and Aaron held it together quite well. People from the ward came over and as they told them what happened I think it made it easier to tell what happened over and over. One of the hardest ones for Rachel and Aaron to tell was Merina, Meridith's best friend. Rachel took her keys away from her when she first got here, she had thought maybe Meridith came back earlier. They had both been away at school and had not seen one another yet. It was very difficult for Merina.
As everything was happening fast in Mexico and Brett had to talk to everyone to make the arrangements to have Meridith brought back home. He held it together very well. I know that this experience has forever changed him. There are many times that I know he suffers silently and won't tell us. I know that if he could change it he would. I also know that only he could have brought Meridith back. Its a relationship that Brett and Meridith have had before either of them came to earth. Even though while they were in high school together he drove her crazy being the older brother and her the beautiful little sister. We are so blessed to have many people who cared for our family. I know that in Meridith's 19 years she added alot to our family and touched many lives. I know that I feel honored to have been Meridith's mom. She was a unique person. Her smile could light up a room. We all miss her. I'm grateful she took many pictures. She loved her camera. I can look back over her years of picture taking and see all her friends, and how much fun they had. How they loved cars, hanging out, swimming, choir,movies. What a joy they are.

Thursday, April 24, 2008

New hours for work!!!!

Back in August we bid for a shift. It happens a couple of times a year. I chose what we call open relief where I bid every week different hour and days off. Usually its pretty good.... I even get weekends off and day hours..... WELL this time around it has been gross. I have been basically working nights since the end of December. But this week is my last wekk...YEAH!!!! My new shift will be 1245-515p which hopefully that means if weather hits it will come in after I've gone home... I will work 1 night for a lady in turn she will work one of my days.. so I will have off 3 days a week sometimes 4..Lucky me. I feel very blessed. Last night of course we had another late night I got off at 1:15 am and then of course my lovely 40 minute drive home. It was after 2am before I got in bed and then my body and everyone else wakes up early I was up at about 7:30. Somedays I wish I could sleep late. Just looking forward to being home at night

Thursday, April 17, 2008

April is speeding by

This month has seem to whiz by. It has been very busy for me. Last weekend we had youth conference for our stake. I'm in the young women's stake presidency so I was blessed to help plan and carry out youth conference. It was on the game of life. Sister Poole from our LDS employment services made a life size game of life. Played in 2 1/2 hours. It was interesting to see the experiences that they had for the youth. Cards that they drew game them life choices. And as in real life the consequences that follow, not always what we hope for. It was great. It started on Fri night 5p-1030p with games of all sorts and a service project for the missionaries that are serving from our stake. We had a huge bounce (race) house. Where 2 people could race one another. We only had one get hurt...not bad and it was a girl and she sprain her ankle. She asked first for her Bishop to give her a blessing and then for her parents . They came and took her to the hospital. She was back the next day for all the activities. We had food galore...we feed them breakfast lunch and dinner and then snacks at the dance that night. On Sunday we had a testimony meeting. It was a good weekend. Rachel and Rick helped on Saturday as did about 60 other people from our stake (just to help play the game)What great people we have in our stake to give up a Saturday all day from 7a-430p.....Brett and Brittany were kind enough to watch Haylee(Haylee of course had a blast with them).. We are very blessed to have our family around us. Now for us in the Young Women's Presidency its on to Girls Camp in the summer. We have been having meetings but now we will focus on it more intently.
On Wednesday morning we meet Lana and Grace and Natalie for a rain ride... We were late catching the train on the first loop but got on it on the return. Haylee Loved it... She had so much fun with Grace. It was wonderful to just sit and talk with Lana and Natalie and Rachel and watch Haylee and Grace. What a great day.
Rick is out of town, we miss him. Haylee wanted to know this morning where Papa was, SO we called him she told him all about her train Ride and that she would go to school today. Our life is busy but kinda boring to others.. I hope that everyone has a great day. Love to all. For all the Petty clan get ready for our Family reunion in Aug. Can't wait to see everyone, we will have 2 new babies. How exciting.

Tuesday, April 1, 2008

April 1

I can not believe it already April. This year seems to be flying by. I might be because I have been working nights....NOT by my choice... But that has been my different shifts since Christmas. As I reflect back on the last 10 years so much has happened. On April 1 Big Jim died from cancer. He was my mom's husband, and a really unique man. First he was about 6'6' or taller, and thin a very hard worker and very kind. He had a great style for clothes, we still laugh when we think about him in Hawaii in his sleeveless t-shirt, tube socks but the ones with the red or blue stripes at the top and jean shorts and the shoes are the best COMBAT BOOTS.. what we would do to see him like that again. He loved my mom like no one else. I know why she misses him. Rick's mom died the following year. All 4 of our kids graduated, nieces and nephews got married and had children. Rick changed jobs (2 times) which was a little more difficult. Kids left on missions, went off to college moved into a new house. I changed jobs went from answering phones (sometimes grumpy people) to working at the airport. Haylee being born, Brett and Meridith being in a car accident. Getting super sick I hope that never happens again. I really appreciate my health. Brett and Brittany getting married. Yeah Brittany(we love her) Rick being called as the Bishop (that was a surprise). Being grateful for our family. Each one of us are different. Thankfully the Lord loves us for who we are. We are so fortunate to have the gospel in our lives, the understanding that this is the Lord's plan and we need to learn as much as we can. I sure hope I am learning what I need to.