Waiting for Calan

Brittany was so worried that Calan Baby would come early. She did not want a baby born on Christmas Eve or Christmas Day, ok we were good with that. The 28 would have been nice that's my Mom's birthday. Here we are on the 30 of December and still No Calan Baby. Haylee told us he would be born on Sat. we hoped either the Sat before Christmas or the Sat after. We are all waiting so patiently. On Sat we took Brittany shopping with us just the girls. Yesterday after her Dr appointment, he told her everything is fine, then they meet me at the mall, we went out shopping and looking again. Last night Rachel came over and she told Brittany this is pure selfish on my part. Your going to the mall with us any way, I don't care that your back hurts ( even though she does care) but come on we all want Calan Baby to come. Brittany is as cute as ever being pregnant but we all want to hold and spoil him. Especially Haylee, she talks about him. She is the one who always calls him Calan Baby...not Baby Calan. Hang in there Brittany he will come soon.

Merry Christmas to All

As I sit here tonight reflecting Christmas time, I am grateful for the knowledge of the birth of Christ. The reason we celebrate this time of the year. I am thankful that Christ was born that he chose to come to earth to be our Savior. I hope everyone has a merry Christmas. Remember the Savior tomorrow, and we should throughout the rest of the year.

Traveling back

We are trying to get back home. The joys of non revenue travel. Since we fly standby which is great when weather hits...its not so great. Today is one of those weather days. They are expecting ice in St Louis. After trying to get on the non stop flight to DFW we didn't make it on that flight so we were looking to find another way home. After looking we considered going to Northwest, Bentonville Arkansas but when they cancelled that flight, I thought ok lets get out of here so... we flew to Minneapolis Minnesota. Its cold here too but sleet is not expected here. So we wait. We will get on this flight unless something major happens. I know Rick needs to be back for the ward social. I want to get back so that I can leave again and go to Colorado. My niece Lizz is having a Ice Show. She is on a synchronized skating team. This would be the first time I would get to see her perform. Courtney and her husband Steve are going to meet me in Denver to attend the temple. I'm looking forward to that. The last time I went to the temple with them was when they were sealed in the Mount Timpanogos. Mary is going to pick me up in Denver. Way fun to see them again. This is been a great week. I have enjoyed the time with Rick and then getting to see all the family in CO.

Our Trip

Rick totally surprised me. He had Rachel pack my bag. Had Amy call me over to her house to help her look at her photo book she is making for John her husband for Christmas. Took me to the church to pick up something a paper for Brett. We ordered our pizza for lunch on our way back from the church. You may ask why pizza? We have had pizza every year on our anniversary. We called a pizza place in Salt Lake on our wedding day and had it delivered..well it was not the best pizza we have ever had but it ok. That is why we have pizza on every anniversary, even if it is at the mall with just a slice. 30 years and Rick still surprises me. On our 25 anniversary, Rick gave me a beautiful ring. It is what some call and eternity ring, with 3 diamonds. This anniversary a beautiful strand of pearls. On Monday after he put our suitcases in the car he told me we were ready to go, but make sure I get a heavy coat. I got my coat and we were off. Brett went with us, because little did I know we were taking a train. We have never taken a train before, it was really neat. We had a sleeper cabin. It actually has a shower in our room, and I did take a shower. Its hard to stand and shower in a moving train. Pictures will follow.(I'm driving in the car and its hard enough trying to type.) We boarded the train and no one told me where we were going, which was surprising, even Rick was surprised that no one said anything about our destination. We were on the train for awhile before I guessed enough and then he told me that I was right. We got off in St Louis and took the metro to the rental car. We rented a car and drove through Missouri while driving down he asked me if I knew where we were going, he told me I could guess. After awhile I did guess, he took me to Nauvoo, IL. It is beautiful this time of the year. Freezing cold..14 degrees but beautiful. Not much is open here during the winter months but we stayed at the Nauvoo log Cabins. Very nice. They have gone around and gotten old cabins in fields and have refurbished them. Our cabin would actually sleep 6 I think. It had a queen bed a set of bunk beds and a futon. The floor is concrete and let me tell you it was quite cold to the feet, but they had rugs down. The bath tub is an old free standing tub. Great hot water. We went to the temple on Wednesday and did 2 sessions, the temple opens at 2pm and the last session is at 6pm. It is a beautiful temple. We got to take a little tour. We saw the baptistery and looked up the spiral staircase that is 5 stories. They told us where the marriages take place which is on the 5Th floor in 2 sealing rooms otherwise proxy sealing are done on the 4th floor. We saw Joseph Smith's sabre hanging in the recorders office, an apron and slipper that was Mary Fielding Smith's, replica keys of the first Nauvoo Temple. There had been a missionary who is a expert in making keys and he studied the original keys that are in the Quincy Museum, after his mission he went back home and crafted the keys. Its quite amazing. Rick planned and carried off a wonderful trip. I'm so blessed to have him. We have been blessed, we have 4 beautiful children, a super cute granddaughter and a grandson on the way. The Lord has certainly blessed us. Life is full of surprises, we are lucky to take the ride together. As we were in Nauvoo and with it being so cold, I couldn't help but think about the pioneers. Last night as we left the temple it was so cold. I am thankful I had my coat. As I looked out towards the Mississippi, I thought about the pioneers leaving their beautiful city and leaving behind their temple. How they worked around the clock so that so many members could have the blessings of the temple. As they left they did not know what was going to happen. They left in the bitter cold winter. They had babies, small children, elderly members, but they were willing to follow. Their testimonies were strong. Their faith not wavering. Many lost their lives, there had to be comfort to those who had been blessed to have the temple ordinances done. I am so grateful to those early pioneers who remained faithful in such trials. I am thankful for my testimony, for the knowledge of eternal families and I am thankful that as Rick and I started our journey together we started it in the right place with the right authority, so that we can be together forever. We did not know when we were married how our journey would be, But we are grateful we travel it together. Thanks Rick, I love you.

Part 2 of Thirty Years

Needless to say we were pulled out of the ditch. Rick made me stay there in Gallup where it was warm. I being young and most certainly in love was not thrilled to be left behind. The logical side of me knew it was the right thing to do. Rick and the guy who slid off the road went back to get the car. When they got back to Gallup we needed gas so we stopped. Did I say it had snowed so much you could not hardly see the entrances to the gas stations or anything. Well we go gas and when we left the station..Yep you guessed it we went off the curb....AND pulled the muffler off. The gas station attendant was nice enough to let us use his garage to try to straighten it and out it back on. Well it was pretty well bent, so Rick tied it up and we drove the next 12 hours with a very noisy car. We got to Provo bought a new muffler drove to Ogden and put it on at the Wade's home. Our journey together has been a good one. But not one with out bumps and big pot holes. I am so blessed to have such a great husband. My Aunt Karen and Uncle Hal were the first of my family Rick had met.
We came back to Texas and had our reception a couple of weeks later. On our honeymoon were were going to go to the Grand Canyon but the road we needed to take was flooded. So we went to Carlsbad cavern instead..it was really neat, we drove through Mesa and saw the Mesa Temple. We had a great time. Just being together and learning about one another. You have to remember we did not know one another very long before we got married. You know dated 2 weeks got engaged, engaged 2 months to the day and got married. Here we are 30 years later. Amazing

Thirty Years

Thirty years ago today Rick and I were married in the Manti Temple.  What a ride it has been.  We lived in Texas then as well, and the Dallas Temple was not built.  Rick, from the time he joined the church loved the Manti Temple.  We went to the Salt Lake Temple and took out our endowments and then 2 days later went to Manti to be married.  The people who attended our wedding was Mr Wade and Marie (Rick always called him Mr Wade and called her Marie)(not sure why he did that) Gary (Rick's brother) Diane and Michael Hepting(my Laurel advisor and her husband) Rick and Mark  (2 of Marie's Children) my Aunt Karen and Kelli and Kyllo even though none of them come into the temple (the kids were both young at the time) Karen wanted them to see and know someone who got married in the Temple. Mr Wade bought lunch for everyone they even let Aunt Karen, Kelli and Kyllo come to the cafeteria. It was wonderful. Since neither one of our parents are members they were not there. We knew it then as much as we both know it now...It is the right way to start a marriage. We drove to Utah. We traveled together with Diane (my Laurel advisor)and her husband and kids. Rick and I and a military young man who was trying to get to Utah to meet up with his family were in our car.  Diane's husband Michael washed his temple recommed and had to get a new one that morning(they realized it on our way out, we were by Ridgmar Mall) Rick and I went back to my mom's and slept for awhile while they got it taken care of. They had to get Bishop Dallof up then President Flynn our sstake President. Then we were on our way. We drove through Texas on to  New Mexico, in Albuquerque Rick was tired and the guy riding with us said he would drive. Rick told him the roads were getting a little slick due to the snow and he said its no problem.....Well it becme a HUGE problem because about 15 miles out side of Gallup New Mexico he slide off the road. Here we sat in -15 degrees below zero. It was cold.. the roads were bad so the tow trucks a were super busy...Now remember this is pre cell phone years. BUT we did have a CB radio my kids probably won't even know what that is. We called on it and the police said if they came out they would have to give us a ticket for failure to maintain control of our vehicle...BUMMER so we all piled in Diane and Michael's car and drove into Gallup...Did I say it was about 1:00 AM. They found a tow truck who said he would go out there and pull us out of the snow bank. Once they got out there they found out we were only feet away from going down about 15 foot drop. (I'm on a train so this will be in increments hope it makes sense..I'll expalin this later)

What a difference a year makes

This past year I have seen many changes, some for the better and some not. I see what a year(not quite) has made for the Eckenrode family. 1 choice 1 consequence many lives changed. Thankfully everything went ok for the family this week. It could have been a differnet tale to tell.

Final Stretch

Brett is in his final stretch for school. Yeah... We are so excited about him graduating. I know Brittany is thrilled, it has been a very long 4 months for her, she has been a trooper though. We we first met her, she was not a real big fan of flying. It made her nervous, but over these last 4 months she has become quite the experience traveler. She would get her self packed, and knew what she could and could not take on the airplane, get checked in and through security. I know she will be sooo glad when he comes home. Now Calan just needs to stay put for a couple of more weeks so that Brett will be here. If you look at Brittany from behind she does not even look like she is pregnant..what luck. Rachel told her today that if Brett not here, Aaron does a good job. But actually its Rachel who would really want to be there. So we have 2 final stretches....Brett and college and Brittany's pregnancy, both are exciting.

Thanksgiving

This year we spent Thanksgiving in Colorado with Rick's brother Gary and his family. It was so good to be there. We flew to Colorado on Wednesday and flew back home of Friday. It was a quick trip but great. We rented a car, and to our surprise...the car they gave us was a black convertible mustang. It was quite fun, especially since the weather wa nice. When we got to Fort Collins, Mary, Lizz and myself went for a ride..of course with the top down and then for some ice cream. It was great to spend time with them. Mary took pictures so when she posts them I'll copy them to share. We had a great time visiting with our nieces and their families. Cee Cee and Bill and their 3 kids, and Courtney and Steve and their 4 kids came over we had dinner that Steve cooked (dinner was very good). Courtney and Steve's youngest 2 kids I had not seen. They are soo cute. Barbara's dad was there from Austin to, he is such a nice guy. We played DDR, it was quite fun. Gary, Rick's brother played as well....but Rick would not play. What a fuddy dud. We had a good time. Then Mary, Lizz and Barbara and I went to the movie to see Twilight. I had not seen it yet. It was fun to go with them. Mary and I went to the midnight book buying of Breaking Dawn so it was great to see the movie with them. Thanksgiving Day Barbara was up early cooking, then the rest of the family came over. Plus one of Cee Cee's friends from high school and her family came as well. It was good to see Stacy and meet her husband and 2 boys. Dinner was soo good. The time spent talking after dinner and just spending time together. Cee Cee made a thanksgiving journal for us all to write in, she will bring it out every year for everyone to sign it and read from the previous year. Such a good idea. As we sat we talked about so many things in our lives, school, activities, colleges, friends, families the gospel. How blessed we all are. I am so thankful for our family. We are truly blessed. I talked with Lon, he and Stephanie spent their first Thanksgiving away from with family. Stephanie cooked and started their own traditions. She is so wonderful and creative. We missed them. We missed our own kids who were in Texas and Virginia. I missed my mom, she had her hands full as well but she had a nice day because my sister was able to leave the nursing home and go to my mom's for thanksgiving dinner and spend time there. This new nursing home had been great to work with her so much in physical therapy to help her get to this point.

Their are so many things that I am thankful for:
The Saviour
The Gospel
Rick (who puts up with me)
Family
Friends
Health
Our Country
Our freedom
It has been a great thanksgiving season for our family.

I'm thankful

Here it is almost thanksgiving and I have lots to be thankful for. We have jobs, when so many are losing theirs. We have our house, that keeps us warm and safe. Our cars that get us where we need to go. Our family that we love so dearly. A great 3 year old granddaughter that reminds me that the little things in life are fun. Our children. A grandson on the way. Family to spend thanksgiving with, thanks for begging us to come. (pray for good weather) A nursing home that has helped my sister do so many things since she has gone there. What a blessing, she can now transfer herself to the chair...YEAH!! Especially for the gospel that teaches us that we have a loving Heavenly Father who loved us enough that he sent his son to come and suffer for us that we would be able to return to them. I know that we all make mistakes along the way, thankfully Christ loved us enough to that he willingly gave up his life for us.

Last Sunday we had a fireside at our stake center by Jenny Phillips. She did a great job. One thing that she said has stuck with me since then. She told the story about herself as a teenager. She wanted to watch the show that everyone was watching. Her mom told her no but one night her mom wasn't home sooo she turned it on. Her mom came home and she figured her mom would make her turn it off she didn't, her mom sat down beside her and the talked about it and her mom asked her Which side of the line she was on The Lord's side or the adversary, when Jenny tired to tell her mom its not a big deal..its just a show her mom asked again which side of the line are you on...the Lord's or the adversary. I have thought about this all week. I thought about a young women that I know who is struggling with school... something that happened when others decided to do wrong ans she didn't, but she is suffering from the effects of it. SHE chose to stand on the Lord's side..she is strong young women but it still hurts. I see others who will stand on the Lord's side it they want something different or more fun or don't want to be lonely, then its not worth it any longer. They chose the adversary. Its hard to watch. As I see the challenges that many young women face I wonder what gives some the moral courage to remain steadfast and immovable and some will stand strong for a while and then will give in. When it is hard for me to watch and ache for them, I often think of Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ, how they feel when they see them struggle and fall. How their hearts ache and how they must want them to choose the right. To return to them, to have the desire.

Haylee's Birthday week

She is so cute to watch. Giving Haylee a birthday present..leaves

Dino ride.. she only wanted to ride with Grandma until....Papa came

It has been a good week. Haylee turned 3 on Tuesday. What fun it is to spend the week at Disney World. When I bid for vacation in 2007 for 2008 I bid for this week off so that we would be able to do this. Rick of course can take it off, so we are out in Florida having a good time. Its fun to see it through Haylee's eyes. Everything is so exciting. She is soaking everything in. She wants to see the characters but not with out someone near her. Mommy holds her and then she is good. It takes awhile then she warms up. Her facial expressions are great.

Don't Worry Brett I'm okay

I know Brett is worried about me. But don't be I'm okay. The post about words from Meridith isn't because I'm not doing well. I saw that in her scriptures when I was putting them away. I had gotten hers out because I left mine in my car. I do think about her, what she might tell me right now, only because she would have an opinion. She was always her siblings biggest supporter. When her older siblings would make stupid choices she would tell me it will be alright. Maybe she knew it or maybe she wanted it to be so.

Marcia will enjoy this one, we were driving the other day with someone in our car (probably Brittany) but we were talking about missionaries and how Meridith wrote Brett and Richie on their missions. Somehow we talked about when Richie wrote Meridith a letter and sent it by way of Marcia. Marcia gave it to Meridith but there was noooo way Meridith was going to let Marcia read it. She never did. Oddly enough I have never gone through her letters since she died. I did look through her journals, I wish there was more. I did find a journal that she had to write for a class, it was about her feelings about service and the gospel. I did write her teacher and thank her for having them do that.

I love each of my kids. I want the best for each of them. I want to have an eternal family, to be reunited with Meridith. No Rachel this is not about you. Its my thoughts and I don't want anyone thinking that I'm not doing well. Yes I miss her. I don't think that will ever go away. I do remember her, good and bad, kind and well not so kind. I do remember her smile, her laugh, her knowledge of who she is. Today at work someone asked me about her and school(Boswell) how did I handle things.

Lessons at church have been very meaningful for me. Probably because I'm struggling with my own issues. I have always said how it is. I guess because I was grateful that my advisers or friends told me how it should be. Well for my own children they don't care for it, I know that I can be hard, only because I love them. Rachel use to say that I could say things to kids because they knew that I love them. But when it comes to my own kids they know that I love them...but they don't like it. I can be very critical of my own kids(their choices) because I only want whats best for them...and its our eternal family at jeopardy. Prayer has become hard for me lately because of frustrations. Its not that I don't realize that I should pray, but sometimes I feel like Satan waits and then makes sure that what I pray about is harder for me that it was before. I know its stupid. I look around an know that everyone has some sort of heartache. No one is exempt.

My sweet sister in law asked me if I have ever doubted the church.. I told her no. When I joined the church, my testimony was firm, and has always been firm. That doesn't mean that I don't struggle. I do. But not on the church or the right things to do. I remember a saying that Rachel made in young women's (actually I think it was Shaunna) You can't do wrong and feel right. How true that statement is. No matter what its about. You can't be mean and feel right, or angry or hateful the list can go on and on. I have always known that Satan will work hard on me. Why?? I don't know. I sure wish he did not. I'm not angry at Heavenly Father for having Meridith leave this world so soon. I don't like it but I'm not angry at him. I always knew it. I wish she could have stayed a little longer. But I know she is still near by. There are glimpses I see of her or thoughts about her. Some that include her siblings, who knows if those are for this life or the next.
I do have a testimony and I do know that Meridith came and fulfilled a purpose. She chose this family and she chose to let Brett come first and then let him be the one to tell her goodbye. We may not understand why it had to happen then but I know that it was her time.(I don't like it) but it was. She is watching us and I know that she understands the big picture and we can't always see it. But we keep trying.

Okay enough said. I'm okay I promise

Words From Meridith

Today when I went to put Meridith's scriptures away this card was inside. I looked at it and thought about her last year at school, high school and college. It applies to me today if I can figure out how to copy it and post it here I will later

Read my scriptures
Praying morning & night .................qualities I need to
doing well in school .....................improve on
not judging people
being kind to everyone
going out & meeting new people
dress modestly
live honestly

then on the back side

"Right marriage begins
with Right dating"

active in the church
Strong testimony
went on his mission
worthy priesthood holder
reads scriptures .................................qualities I want in
prays everyday ....................................my husband
very social
great sense of humor

I know that she will have all those thngs one day.

I need to improve on these things as well.

Give Thanks

This time of the year is set apart to give thanks. We need to look for many blessings that we have. The Lord blesses us and I know for me I sometimes forget to look for them and be grateful. I am thankful that the Lord is there for me, even when I feel like its just me.

Lessons ths week

One of the talks at church on Sunday was on prayer. Sister Cook did amazing. I have thought about it this week. I know that I need to be better. Rick and I talked about it one day and he said he really enjoyed it too. I know that Heavenly Father hears us. But sometimes for me it hard not knowing the answers to my prayers. I guess I'm a why person, and what am I suppose to learn form this. So far I haven't gotten any of those answers lately. I wish I would. Then Relief Society was really good as well. I guess i just needed to me reminded of several things lately. I still have a hard time saying the right things... or should I say not saying anything when I should not. I guess the Lord is still patient with me, I should be more understanding than I am sometimes.

Thanks Mom

I have a great mother. She has always been my best supporter. I look back on my life and I am grateful to have her as my mother. I know that she has been through alot in her life. My mom got married at 14 and had my sister at 16 and me at 18. My dad had been married before and so he had a daughter that was about 3 when they got married. I asked my mother what made her get married soooo young. She said my dad just kept asking her and she gave in. Well anyone who knows her now she just doesn't give in.
One time while in Nebraska visiting my grandfather, who was wonderful, I realized "Oh, now I see where the stubbornness comes from" My grandfather my mother and now me and guess what Rachel...you too. As we talked about family traits and what my great grandmother was like(I never met her) she was really stubborn. But come on she had 13 kids, she had to hold her ground. Her first 2 were twin boys with my grandfather being the oldest.(and what jokers they were)
My mom has dealt with alot in her life. My grandmother(her mom) died in my mothers arms when my mom was 18 and I was 2 months old. My mom had a 2 year old and a new baby and now dealing with the death of her mother. What alot to deal with. Plus my Aunt Karen her younger sister was only 15 when her mother died. It could not have been easy.
Her best a love in her life came much later. His name was Big Jim because he was sooo tall. His name was actually James but everyone knew him as Big Jim. What great guy he was. He had the best outlook on life. He taught me alot. Even when he was dying of cancer he had the best outlook. He loved my mother and all of us. When he died I know that it broke my mothers heart. She lost her best friend and love of her life.
A few years later her baby sister died. That is what my always called her. When my Aunt Karen died it has been hard. My mom and Aunt were very close. Karen moved to Texas to live near my mother (after her husband died of cancer). Karen did not like the heat but she loved her sister.
My sister had been sick for a long time now. Really bad for almost 2 years. My mother has always been there for her. I sometimes think to the detriment of her own health. She keeps going, now she has my niece and her 3 kids that live with her. Her life is never dull.
I love my mom and all that she has taught me. Rick says she is the greatest mother in law ever. He says that she has taught him alot. I am very grateful to have been blessed my having her as my mother. Thanks Mom for teaching me many great lessons in life through your example and willingness to share and be there for others. You are a wonderful mom, and I love you.

What a good friend

There are people who come into your life that leave such a imprint. Several years ago I had that experience. One summer Meridith went out to California with Dani, what a great time they had. I look back at pictures of them and see the fun they had. During that time Meridith stayed at Dani's grandma and papa's house with them. What a house full they had and didn't mind having one more. Meridith was already good friends with Dani and her family and now she had more friends. Lana's sisters and their children. Meridith talked about it for along time after she came back. They went to the Los Angles temple and did baptism. Lana's dad (papa) did the baptisms what an experience for all that went. Meridith went out another time to spend time with Andrea(she had tons of fun) remember the man jogging on the beach in his speedo. Meridith has that scrapbooked. What makes me realize how fortunate I am is because Natalie, Lana's mom became a good friend to me. She came into my life at a time that I needed someone. She is someone that has loved my family. I think back to when they moved here from California. What a change for them. What a blessing for us. They lived just down the street. John became our home teacher. When Rachel had Haylee and we were in Argentina picking up Brett, who did Rachel call when Haylee was crying and so was Rachel, Natalie, and she came right away. Didn't even hesitate. Natalie was able to calm Rachel and Haylee. What a blessing. When Meridith died, John came to the house right away, before we left for Mexico. When we came back Natalie came here many days, did laundry and what ever else that need to be done here. She cooked and served at the funeral, as did many people. Now Natalie is leaving to served a mission with her husband. I know that she will touch many lives. She has certainly touched mine. Her faith and testimony has carried me, and I am a better person because I have had the privilege to call her FRIEND.

Drive to Louisiana

Saturday morning Aaron and Kim came over for our drive to Louisiana. It was about 6 1/2 hours. It wasn't a bad drive but Aaron and Kim slept most of the way down and neither one of them are very talkative. We got there in plenty of time, we still had a couple of hours to waste. It was nice we had lunch and went shopping at Old Navy, got some great deals for men. The game....well it was against a division 1 school and SVU is a little school. Completely different rankings, which was not good for the score. Brett made the only touchdown AND he kicked the extra point, it was great. I know he was thrilled. Kenny and Isabell came in from Houston to watch the game. That was really nice of them. It is some much fun to have family there. Rachel, Haylee, my Mom and Brittany and of course Rick drove down of Friday. Brittany got to see Brett Friday. It was good. I didn't get to see him much because I didn't get to go till Sat but that's OK.

Life has been so busy lately.

Hurricane Ike

Hurricane Ike did some major damage. We were fortunate here it turned and went east. We were lucky. But for many they were not. Just an update on our family in Houston. Kenny and Isabel and Chrissy and Jason, they have power. Todd and Alisha and Kenneth they don't. Well Todd and Alisha have a generator. We are blessed to know that they are all well and safe.

One Choice

Today as I was sitting in the hospital with my mom, because my sister is back in the hospital again. I began to think about One Choice. What can just one choice do for you, does it really matter. I thought about when Terri and I first moved to Texas, and one choice that I made was to call the church when Julie and I were watching TV and a commercial came on about the church. Just one choice. Terri, Julie and I all joined the church. What a huge impact on my life, all because of that 1 choice. Terri married Bobby who joined the church, but wasn't really converted. I sometimes wonder if she married Bobby because she thought she might not get married. 1 choice, latter they were sealed in the Switzerland temple but were never active, only active while in Germany, and after Cindy was born and had some medical issues and they got a blessings from the Elders. 1 choice. Julie married a member but he would never get his act together to take her to the temple. Julie thinks about that alot, because when her daughter Elizabeth died from a heart defect she knows she will not have her in the eternities to come. I have thought today about my life and the choices I have made, about how I can trace my blessings back to 1 important choice and then another choice in my life. How different it could have been, had I not joined the church, or remained active, or married in the temple or after Brett was born if I decided not to have any more children even though I knew we had 1 more. It all comes down to a choice. Our choices make us the type of people we are, it shapes us, but I know that at 18 I really didn't understand how important that 1 choice would be. I certainly understand it now. Many times we think that this or that doesn't really matter but it does. That 1 choice makes all the difference. Now and forever. Its late so I hope this makes sense.

Football Games

This weekend I had off so we went to see Brett play football. He did a great job. This was one of Brittany's weekends to be there. I wish that she didn't have to be separated from Brett,but its just 4 months, that is what we keep telling ourselves. I know that it is hard for her, but she is a trooper. Brittany's parents Jeff and Laurie and Sarah came down for the game. It was fun. They have done a lot for Brett at school this semester. They took him a bed, couch, dresser,TV, a lamp, bookcase a chair. They have been very supportive. Laurie made some of Brittany's favorite foods for the game. She is a good cook. She even makes bagels. Something I never thought of making, I guess because cooking is not my favorite. Brittany sure loves them. Rick and I got back Sunday afternoon and Brittany got home Sunday night. It was good to be back home. This makes 2 Sundays that Rick has either missed some or all of church, he has great counselors and executive secretary. I know he would be lost with out them. I love watching Brett play. They won which made him much happier than last week. The score was 55-25, it was in the 4 quarter when the other team made their points, when out team put the back ups to the back ups in. I won't get to go next weekend. I have a stake dance and stake meetings on Sunday. Too bad, its good to see him. Gives me something to look forward to.

Katrine

Nasley and Merina

Dani


Meridith always had such good friends. These pictures are on her computer, plus lots more. They come up as her screen saver. Its bitter sweet, I am grateful she took so many pictures, and she included herself in so many. Many of the she took herself. Her graduation present of a digital camera was the perfect one for her. She used it all the time. It is good to look at them.

Faces of Meridith

Today Meridith you would be 22. I remember the day you were born. 2:59 am you came into this world. Our lives would never be the same. As a little girl you were shy, and didn't like your brothers to fight. You would watch Rachel and ask her all sorts of questions, embarrassing ones for the older sister. As a young women you knew who you were. I was always impressed by your voice and beauty. But you never thought your were beautiful. But you were. I think that made you even more beautiful. People would always comment on your beauty. Your whole earth life was ahead of you and Heavenly Father decided that it was time for you to return. Its not easy for me. not a day goes by that I don't think about you. I know that I should get use to you being gone, but I haven't. Amamda sent you flowers today. She thinks about you often. You came into this world and touched so many lives. I'm not sure that you even realize the lives you touched. It certainly came from that inner beauty that you had. I have come to realize that you must have known that you were sent here for a purpose. you stayed strong and your faith never waivered. Thanks for your example. You were always your siblings biggest supporter. You understand better than we do how important eternal families are.

Meridith and Merina

Meridith and Haylee. She loved Haylee and was so thrilled to be Aunt Mer Mer.
Deisha, Meridth, Sheree. These girls became such good friends in such a short time. Deisha made college life so fun.

Meridith I love you. This picture captures your beautiful smile.Meridith and Caden Butterfield. Meridith really loved those boys.

Football Season

Here is a picture of Brett linning up at the start of the game. He loves playing football. Brittany said with his pads on it really makes his thighs look huge. Its always fun to watch Brett play.


I had Brittany stop as she cameback up the stairs to get a cute picture of her tummy. While she was away she started showing more.... she looks sooo cute



Here is Brett and Brittasny after the game. We were glad Brett smiled... Even though he really didn't want to. He played a good game but the lost the the othere school.. Its not Brett thing to lose. He did hold it together though.. Good Job Brett..

Dating

Living in the mission field can pose a problem for members of the church who want to have an eternal family. As a young Women's presidency we see this as the ward leaders talk about problems that they are having with teh young women. There is no easy answer. I do that that you have to be careful. When I joined the church I had guy friends that were not members. I even dated before I turned 16 since I joined the church at 14. My mom didn't care and I had already gone out a few times with a friend. When I joined the church I had a good Bishop who counseled me to not date until I turned 16. He told me that there were other girls who were watching me and would think that it was ok to date before they turned 16. I had dated this one guy who was really nice and had great standards. But he was not a member of the church. We talked about this in young women's and a with my Laurel Advisor, fortunately I was willing to listen and understand what was important. This guy and I remained friends, he even went to see my family even after I was married. But I had to make the decision to not date non members so that I would not be tempted to fall in love and forget what is most important. Eternal Families. There are lots of great people out there. Some will join the church if given the opportunity some will not. I was not willing to take that chance. When I met Rick, I was not looking to get married but I was doing all the things that I was suppose to do. Gratefully I did not settle, for a marriage outside of the temple. How sad I would be knowing that I would not have Meridith in my family for eternity. I think of Danielle who moved in with her boyfriend. It breaks my heart. I know that everyone young woman wants to be married. There is someone there. We just have to do all we can. Live the gospel to the fullest and pray and let Heavenly Father take care of it and I know he will. My sweet niece this summer has been dating a non member, but she told me that she knew their relationship would not go anywhere. Thanks Mary. I want to be at your temple marriage.(not for a few years) (love you sweetheart)
Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding
Proverbs 3:5. Its not always easy. But its worth it. I can not imagine not having any of my children with me or my grandchildren. I know when Julie(my good friend) married a member but who would not take her to the temple and then her 3 child Elizabeth died for a heart defect. It has bothered her since. She know that she will not have Elizabeth unless she gets her act together. I pray for her often that she will get it figured out.

Faith

Several years back the bishop at the time challenge each of us to pray everyday. It is something we should all do. I really took his challenge to heart. I did just what he asked. I knew that I was blessed for it. I was able to handle challenges that came my way. My testimony grew, it was a good opportunity for me. When Brett went off to school and he faced challenges. I knew the Lord was there. When Aaron left on his mission and then came home, as hard as that was I knew that the Lord was there for us. When Meridith went off to school and got lonely and had a couple of roommates that were not really following the standards, I knew the Lord was there.
(When Rachel was at BYU-I she lived in Nauvoo House they had a picture of a temple in every room and a picture of Christ and Joseph and Emma Smith(I think) in the living room.) Pictures of the Savior can help bring a good spirit into your apt, so I asked Meridith "do you have a picture of Christ and a picture of the temple" She did not. I told her that all her life she had those daily reminders around her and that she needed to have those comforts now. My mother and I flew up there to give her love and support. Rachel would have gone to but she was having a high blood pressure issue that needed to be seem by the Dr. Thanks goodness she didn't go. The Lord again blessed me with a feeling that she did not need to go. It would not be safe. When we went to Idaho, we went and bought a picture of Christ to hang over the TV in the living room and this sweet picture of children in front of the temple.



That brought her much comfort and peace in her apartment. Deisha one of her roommates told Meridith that she has taught her so much this one semester than she had learned the year before.
I realize that these last couple of weeks as I have struggled it is a reminder that I need to ask Heavenly Father for help. To be reminded that I can not do this alone. I realize that my problem these last couple of weeks are CHOICES. CHOICES that I can not control, and not knowing how to handle it. SO my favorite saying is If you don't like something change it, if you can't change it, change the way you think about it.

Today in Sunday school Sister Fowler read my favorite scripture Helaman 5:12
12 And now, my sons, remember, remember that it is upon the rock of our Redeemer, who is Christ, the Son of God, that ye must build your foundation; that when the devil shall send forth his mighty winds, yea, his shafts in the whirlwind, yea, when all his hail and his mighty storm shall beat upon you, it shall have no power over you to drag you down to the gulf of misery and endless wo, because of the rock upon which ye are built, which is a sure foundation, a foundation whereon if men build they cannot fall.
I have to remember that I have built my testimony on a sure foundation. One which has been built over many years. That has carried me through the difficult times in my life. I know that the church is true. there is no doubt in my mind this is not a belief but a knowledge.
That we have a true and living prophet today on the earth. That Heavenly Father loves us enough to make sure we still have a prophet to guide us today. My testimony is never wavered. I know that Satan still works hard on me. I know that he tries to make me lose faith. But because I know that Jesus Christ is real and that He died for our sins and that he willingly gave up his life for us, brings comfort.
I know there are times when Satan works harder on me, I sometimes feel like he waits for me to question why? Why does A choose not to go to church. Why did Brett get so sick? Why does a friends son choose the the wrong friends and do things that can hurt him? Why do we have young women who move out of their homes to live with a boyfriend that won't be there in a year. Why can't they see the future. Why did Meridith have to die? When she was so full of life and had so much to offer. Good thing we have faith so that as these trials come for all of us(and they will come) we can know that Heavenly father is there for us. I do know this I am grateful for the reminders that I have been given this last week. (sorry for the ramblings I just needed to get it out)

Decisions

Being in the Stake Young Women's Presidency you have to make a lot of decisions. One that is driving us crazy is where to have camp next year...... We want the experience to be a good one, with other activities to do. This year the place was OK. We have gone there for the last 2 years. Not much to do, they sleep in mobile homes which are air conditioned, that part is good,especially since we went in July this year, and they had a swimming hole (to small to be a lake but bigger then a pond.)

We went a toured one, but the drive is 2 1/2 hours, which with the price of gas (and who knows next year) could be a lot. That camp ground has a lot to offer. Horse backing riding, at least one ride per girl, a swimming pool and a lake with a huge 3 person slide. They have deer that just wander the camp grounds(which is really neat) One thing we are finding out is: there are a lot of camp grounds in Texas but so many of them have their own camps...I can't imagine as a parent send my children off for 5 weeks during the summer for camp. That brings us back to finding a place. Victoria and I are going to see another one on Monday. I think its only about 1 or 1 1/2 hours away which is better than 2 1/2 hours. They do have horse back riding and other activities. We shall see. Its a tough decision. We want everyone to come and enjoy the time.

When your prayers seem unanswered

Several years ago I bought this book by S. Michael Wilcox. I read it then, the other night I was looking for another book and rediscovered this one. I guess at this time I must need it, as I picked it up there was a page that was marked about God being a 4the watch God. It gives the example of when Christ had feed the 5,000 and he instructed his disciples to get into a boat and pick him up later. He spent time in prayer and the disciples went into the boat. The storm came and they were fearful for their lives, they did not know that Christ was watching them. They only knew that the storm was bad and they had rowed along time, they were tired and exhausted. Christ came to them and and told them to be of good cheer and it was him. I imagine the disciples would rather have had Christ come earlier to them, but he didn't. When Joseph Smith went into the grove of trees to pray, and felt like his very life was going to end, then a pillar of light came over him. It seems that the Lord tend to come when we are a moment of great despair. I guess I'm more of a please come early and take away any problems that I might be facing, I don't want to do this alone. I often think of the early saints and all that they went though. Would I have had the faith to endure? I would hope that I would.  I can remember when my sister was going through a really diffcult time. My niece went to visit her dad and when it was time for him to send her back to Terri he did not. It took along time to finally get her back, but during this process one day I realized that I prayed for Cindy to be returned to Terri and (if) Bobby prayed (I doubt it) he would want Cindy to stay there. Not because he wanted her but because it would hurt Terri. I remember being on Roberts Cutoff and it came to me that if he answered my prayer then he would not be able to answer Bobby's prayer. Now I realize that I wanted what was best for Cindy and I don't feel he did. How can God answer mine and not his. Now here I am many years later, feeling like my prayers aren't going anywhere. Not necessarily for any reason but they just aren't. It makes it really hard to still pray. I feel like I'm past the 4th watch and the Lord had forgotten me. This morning driving to church I was frustrated at myself and told the Lord you know, I've done the things that you have asked of me, I've been faithful, what else am I suppose to learn. Why do I have to feel like I'm all alone here. Its not a good feeling. I hate feeling this way. I'm trying to get past these feelings but Satan sure knows me to well, but I know that Heavenly Father is there. I have know that for many years.  The knowlege that he has given me, just one person, so that I can deal with things in my life.  I have to remember that, He can and will help me I but just need to have patience. But its not always in my nature to be patient. I use to tell my kids "Patience is a virtue and virtues never hurt you". Now I must remind myself of this. Rereading this book, has been good. Its just a short book, easy reading, but lots to think about. I know I'm rambling but I'm just trying to sort through my thoughts.

Memory Game

I saw this on a friend's blog and thought it might be fun...

1. As a comment on my blog, leave one memory that you and I had together. It doesn't matter if you knew me a little or a lot, anything you remember!

2. Next, re-post these instructions on your blog and see how many people leave a memory about you. It's actually pretty funny to see the responses. If you leave a memory about me, I'll assume you're playing the game and I'll come to your blog and leave one about you. If you don't want to play on your blog, or if you don't have a blog, I'll leave my memory of you in my comments.
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Happy Birthday Brett

I remember when Brett was born. He was 8lbs 12oz. He was so cute. Happy Birthday Brett. I wish I could give him a big hug. He is in Virginia working out and pratice is killing him. Its harder on him that he thought he misses Brittany. I know he wishes he could be here with Brittany. I love you Brett.

Our Sweet Brittany

Today Brittany's sweet Grandmother died. I know she will be missed. I only meet her once and she and her husband were the kindest people. The night before Brett and Brittany were married we had a family dinner, and finish the last details here. Brittany's grandmother is in a wheelchair but that did not stop her. She helped with the m&m's and the broccoli and cauliflower. What and amazing woman. I know that she loved Brittany and I know that Brittany loves her. Brittany was the first grandchild that got married and married in the temple. What a blessing to Brittany's grandmother to know Brittany is remaining faithful and strong in the gospel. I love you Brittany.

ABC Tag

* A - Attached or single: Attached
* B - Best Friend: Julie Marcia
* C - Cake of Pie: Pie
* D - Day: Saturday
* E - Essential Items: Cell Phone, Tooth Brush Shower
* F - Favorite Color: Blue
* G - Gummy Bears or Worms: Bears
* H - Hometown: Fort Worth TX
* I - Indulgences:
* J - January or July: January its cold outside
* K - Kids: Rachel, Aaron, Brett Meridith
* L - Life is incomplete without: Family
* M - Marriage Date: December 15, 1978
* N - Number of Siblings: 1 sister
* O - Oranges or Apples: apples that are crunchy Granny Smith
* P - Phobia or Fears:
* Q - Quote:
* R - Reason to Smile: Haylee
* S - Season: I love the fall.
* T - Tag three:
* U - Unknown fact about me:
* V - Vegetarian or Not: Not
* W - Worst habit: Nagging my kids
* X - X-rays or Ultrasounds: Ultrasounds
* Y - Your favorite food: Pizza
* Z - Zodiac sign: Gemini

Young Womens Camp

We have started to look for another place to hold our Young Women's camp for 2009. I had not ideal it would be so difficult to find a place. There might be allot of camps in Texas but so many of them hold their own camps in the summer so they do not rent out their facility. We have had many discussion about camp and how we would like to have something different. We have found one but its a 2 1/2 hour drive. I'm not opposed to the drive and the place is quite unique. Has lots to offer the girls, which I think they would really enjoy. We shall see what happens next. Big question is where will camp be????

Family Reunion

We have a great family. Its so much fun to get together and visit. This year everyone came here. I did not plan on it being the hottest weekend so far. That was really the pits, but we all survived. Swimming, playing corn hole and skeet shooting for some and indoor miniature golf for others. We managed to stay some what cool and have fun. Thanks to everyone for coming. We missed all those who were not here. My super great niece and I went to walmart to get the last book in the Twilight series. Miss Mary happened to finish it on Sunday, well for me it was Monday or Tuesday, I can't remember. It was great to read it. I really enjoyed it.

Reading

Ok I had not gotten into the Stephenie Meyer series of books until after girls camp. Everyone talked about it there and then we went to Idaho and Rick started to no feel well so we went to Gary and Barbara's hotel (our hotel was about 20 min away) and I got he first book. I had it at home but never set down to read it. Well needless to say on Monday I read the first book, Tuesday the 2ND and Wednesday the 3rd. SO Mary, you and I are getting the 4Th on Saturday Morning... it will be great fun.... My family thinks I'm crazy that I can read like that. Its all good.

Which Princess am I

You Are Pocahantas!

Free-spirited and wise. You have a strong passionate spirit that touches and changes all who know you. The wisdom and common sense that you have is really what guides you through life. Even so, you also have a very playful side that loves adventure and excitement.

Which Disney Princess Are You?
Who woul dhave thought it...not me

Girls Camp

This last week I had the privilege of going to our Stake Young Women's camp. It was really great. We have some pretty wonderful girls in our stake. Being in the stake young women's presidency gives you a different perception. I enjoyed working with some pretty amazing women. Victoria is our president, she is quite funny. Camping is not her thing, she has stressed all year since we have been called about camp. We had 2 great camp leaders, Marion, she was the director last year and this year, and Lori this was she first year, for any type of young women's camp. Her family was inactive until she was in college and it was Lori who brought her entire family back. Lori's dad is now a bishop, he was there on Friday night for the special program that we do and then the Bishops have a testimony meeting with the girls of their ward. Our Stake President, he is great, he is just so down to earth. He tells some pretty amazing stories of his life. He really relates well with our youth. He had 3 daughters there at camp. The young women in our ward are amazing. Their cabin that the farthest from everything. The would not really complain about the distance or the heat. Morgan, a girl that has down syndrome would tell her mom " Mom, I'm done walking" Debbie her mom would say "Morgan, I'm going to the cabin, if you want you can sit on the ground but I'm going to the cabin" Morgan would keep walking.
Here is a little of our schedule. Tuesday we meet our YCL's youth camp leaders, and drove them down to the camp to get set up for all the girls that would be coming on Wednesday morning. We got down there unloaded all our stuff, let me tell you we had stuff. All the stake camp leaders went down with us and the all the ycl's. We brought a sack lunch and had the girls put their stuff in one of the cabins so that they all slept in the same cabin instead of all over the camp. We had them make banners welcoming all the wards. The ycls for our ward were Megan, Mariah, Kisa and Rebecca, they were great. The made this amazing banner, they made all the letters animal prints designs. SUPER CUTE. I'd put a picture on the blog but I can't seem to get the picture off the camera. Bummer.. They also got to sleep in our cabin with all the leaders...there was not enough room in the cabin with the girls, they had fun with us. They taught us this crazy game. Its a question game you can only ask a question, of course not all questions make sense but its fun.. You get out by saying something that is not a question.
Wednesday the girls all got there about 8:30-9:00 am.. They had to get their camp shirts on and then meet us at the pavilion. The camp likes to take a picture of all of us. They did that and we had a short meeting with the camp owners. They went over the rules. The girls went back to change their shirts because we save them for Friday night when the bishops come. Its always looks great.
Victoria gave a talk on how do we know that the Lord loves us, our theme was He Looketh on the Heart. Its really turned out great. Marion and Lori would dress up sometimes. They were a hoot. I'll post more later we are getting ready to get on a flight to Salt Lake, so that we can be in Idaho for the blessing of our great niece Eden Meridith Kreger. We are excited to see her. It will be better in person than just in the super cute pictures we get to see. Can't wait to see ya'll. please forgive any mistakes, running on little sleep and a hurt leg..will explain later

Working on not being so grouchy

Rachel so kindly let me know that I have not been so pleasant these last few weeks. I don't like making everyone miserable. SO I am working on being happier. I know they all hope it gets better. Me too. Tuesday was kinda the breaking point. It was not a good day. I hit Rick's car, went to 3 junk yards to find a rim the the Kia and then had to take the Kia in to the dealership because the clutch that we had replaced 2500 miles ago is not working. They have had it since Tuesday and they are still not done.. Its the pits. I don't understand whats taking sooo long. Friday went to meet the Physical Therapist for Terri and they never showed. My mom and I waited 2 1/2 hours. Its the pits when they say they are coming and they don't show.

Reading Time

Even tonight mommy asked if she could read to her... she said no papa.

Haylee and Papa

The last couple of nights Papa has been reading to Haylee. She only wants Papa to read to her. Even last night Brett asked her if she wanted him to read to her. She got her book and crawled up on Papa's lap. Haylee sits so sit with her sausies(softies) her blanket, as he reads 3 certian books to her. Its very sweet.

Young Womens Camp

Camp is fast approaching and I have to be prepared to teach a class on Friday. I have been struggling with this and with life in general. Its been really hard these last couple of weeks. Not sure why, but just a lot of things. Our theme for camp is He looketh on the Heart. Our goal is for the girls to understand their potential and not to sell their selves short. To be prepared for what life throws at you. Overcoming the temptations in your life, being sensitive to the spirit. That is just a little of what we are trying to accomplish. With my own inadequacies and trials I wonder what am I suppose to learn from this and what am I suppose to teach these girls. I guess that is why I am having such a hard time. I know that Heavenly Father is there but so often lately I feel so alone. I don't like feeling this way and its hard to know what has brought it on. But as I think about "Heavenly Ever After" -making the temple your goal. I know that each girl should make a decision RIGHT now. If they don't it will become easier to fall into Satan's traps... and man is he ever good. Its all the little choices that at the time don't seem quite so important but it can really make a big difference. Modesty, friends, dating, entertainment, word of wisdom, morality, its all those issues that as leaders and parents we try to teach but it doesn't seem to get every far. I know kids must look at me and think "Oh my gosh" she is sooo old how could she possibly understand what its like. But I do, the need to be accepted never goes away. Wanting to have friends, wanting to have a boyfriend and then later to find a mate, those things don't change. We have to learn to be comfortable in our own skin, with who we are and what we are doing. We have a couple of girls in our ward, the oldest one always had the goal of going to BYU. Well she is making choices that will keep her from attaining that goal. It saddens me. I wonder why...why is it so hard to see where your choices are taking you. She dates non members, why because it is easier and I know she would tell me there isn't anyone here to date. But there are... you have to look and put your self in the right places. I know it would be easier for everyone if the church were stronger and had more people in it here but its not that way. So you have to make it the best that you can. I know I'm rambling but I needed to write it down so that I can try to make sense of it.

Happy Birthday Aaron

Today is Aaron's 26 birthday. I just want to say Happy Birthday. I love you.

Happy 4th

We had our annual 4th of July breakfast. Our ward has been doing this for as long as I can remember. The High Priest cooked breakfast the Elders Quorum set up tables and chairs. This year we had it at Willow Creek Park. With having 3 wards in the building its a scheduling nightmare. We had a bounce house for the kids and of course the bike parade. Haylee is big enough to ride her tricycle in the parade. She thought it was cool. B&B and Bubba and Tessa went swimming. Bubba and Tessa came over and so did Patricia Bubb's mom. I had to go to work.. bummer but it really wasn't too bad. Normally on Fridays i get off at 1015 pm but because of the reduced flight schedule i got off at 6pm it was great. B&B and Rick and I watched the fireworks. We live outside of Fort Worth city limits so we can shoot off fireworks. SO we did an so did a bunch of others in the neighborhood. It was nice. The missionaries came over Elder Josey and Elder Pilling. They at dinner with us. We had steak and chicken and grilled corn on the cob... The dinner was great. I am grateful to live on this country. We are free to do many things. Thanks to fore ancestors and all those who sacrificed so much for us. We enjoy what they did so many years back.

Done with moving

Bret and Brittany moved out of their apartment on Monday. Its been a rough month with 2 weeks taken out because Brett was sick and in the hospital, then 5 days being in California that didn't leave them a lot of time. Thanks to Rachel, Rick, Haylee, the neighbors twins Audrey and John Wyatt Brett and Brittany we got them moved. Monday Brittany took off work and we loaded the truck and dropped things off at the storage. Rick and Brett got there to move the big stuff. Rachel got there with her truck so we made the last trip with 2 trucks. Brittany and I made 2 trips before the last one. plus Rick and Brett made the first one before that with their bed frame and the table and chairs.Its amazing how much stuff you can have in just 1 year. Now I know why we have lots of stuff with almost 30 years. Though I've been throwing out stuff. Just tired of all the stuff.
Brett missed 2 weeks of summer school but his teachers were great, he got caught up and is taking his last final today. He will take another summer semester and then head off to SVU in Virginia and finish his last semester..YEAH!!! I know Brittany will be glad. Not that he is going to SVU but that he will be done. So will we.

Bubba's Wedding

On Wednesday Rick, Brett and Brittany and I flew to California for Bubba's wedding. Brett met Bubba on his mission in Argentina. It was not friends at first sight. I guess it took a while for them to be friends. Bubba came home a little over a year before Brett did. He came to visit us. You took definitely tell that he was a newly returned missionary. I know that he came to meet Meridith,(I think most missionaries knew about Brett's little sister) That's ok, she actually wrote a couple of them while Brett was on his mission. Bubba was a great support to Brett after Meridith died. I know that Brett appreciates his friendship. The wedding was very nice it was on a cliff overlooking the ocean. As they were getting ready for the wedding to start, a huge wave came up and splashed on the groomsmen. Fortunately the spots didn't last long, No one figured we were close enough to worry about the waves,it was all good no one got tooo wet. Bubba's new wife is Tessa, she is very nice. They had a nice reception at Tessa's bishops house. It was very pretty. The weather was great. It was not hot, everyone said that last week it was super hot. Great for us nice cool weather. On Thursday morning we took Brittany done to Rodeo Drive, she had never been to California. It was fun to spend time with Brett and Brittany. Thanks to Bubba for inviting us to your wedding.

I've Been Tagged

Whats his name? For those who know him its Rick. But on his Dads side they call him Jr. on his moms side they call him Rick but...his real name is Marvin Turner Petty Jr. I didn't even know that til after we were engaged.
How long have you been together? 29 1/2 years it will be 30 yrs on December 15.
How long did you date? 2 weeks and then we got engaged and were engaged for 2 months. I know it was super fast. My parents thought so to, but hey when its right its right..
How old is he?he just had a birthday...so he is 54
Who eats more?That would be Rick unless its bread or strawberry rhubarb pie, then is me.
Who said I love you first? Rick, I think
Who is taller?Rick by about 2 inches
Who sings better?Me
Who is smarter?That would be Rick. He is quite talented in many areas.
Who does he laundry?That would be me. The kids will tell you I can get anything out of clothes.. and now its summer again so I do lots of towels
Who pays the bills?Rick does..at different times in our marriage we use to pay them together, then I paid them now Rick does.
Who sleeps on the right side?Rick
Who mows the lawn?Rick does and we have a big one to mow. He just hops on the riding mower and away he goes. He does it about 2 times a week. Sat he mowed our neighbors front yard she has been very ill.
Who cooks dinner?That would be me. Its not my favorite. Rachel does sometimes and so does Rick.
Who drives?Rick does, he prefers it that way.
Who is more stubborn?I have to say. its me
Who kissed who first?I think Rick kissed me first.
Who proposed?That would be Rick. One Saturday he meet me for lunch, I worked at the mall, after we walked around for awhile we stopped and sat down and he said that he was going to fast about our relationship. I said OK. In a couple of minutes I told him I would fast as well. He said he would cook dinner for us the next night ans we would break our fast together. I told he that would be fine. But I had a date that night with another guy(he will never let me live that one down) He sat at home watching the Return of Gilligan's Island. He fixed a great dinner. We sat on the could with the Tabernacle choir singing in the background and he asked me...he was so nervous.
Who has more friends?That would be me. Rick is not a real social person.
Who is more sensitive?Me
Who has more sibling?That would be Rick he has 2 brothers and 1 sister. I have just 1 sister. I guess technically I have more my dad remarried and had a little boy and then a set of triplets they are about 15-16 years younger than me and I haven's seen them since 1978 I only saw them for about 3 months.
Who wears the pants?Rick does and I'm very grateful, he is a great husband, father and brother.

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Happy Birthday Rick

Yesterday was Ricks' birthday. It was nice we got to spend the day together. We went to Sam's man why is it always expensive when you go there. But it was good. We went out to dinner, to Spring Creek. We love Bar B Que. We had a great time. Rachel, Haylee, Brett and Brittany, Taylor (our Neighbor) Gary, Darrell, it was great. Aaron had to work, we missed him. We had a nice time just sitting and talking. Hope he enjoyed his birthday. Kim is assistant made he his favorite chocolate cake. Its the best. She makes it every year for him.. she great at that. Thanks Kim.

Thanks Rick

I have been blessed with the Best Husband for me.
He has always been so supportive. He loves me, and I know that can't always be easy, I can be difficult. He carries the weight of the family and never complains. He works hard and always had. He keeps our yard(and its a big one) always looking great. He is faithful in his callings and honors the priesthood. He is always there for me. His strength over these past 2 years is comforting. I love him.

I feel her near

This last week with Brett being so sick, it was scary. Gratefully the Dr said that he would heal with time and should with no lasting effects. Over this last week as I watched him be so sick we were all so very worried. I am so very grateful to all who fasted and prayed for him. I really felt the prayers, and I know he must have too. I know that Brittany as worried as she was held it together quite well. Aaron came to the hospital one day and we were glad to see him. I miss having all the kids together.
One day as I was going to work, in my quiet time I realized that I had been thinking about Meridith quite a bit. Then Rachel told me about one of Meridith's friends that had been having dreams about her and wondered what they might mean to her. I was amazed by Rachel, her strength and her understanding of the gospel and how close Meridith really is, as she explained to Meridith's friend about the gospel and what we believe. I then realized that I must be feeling her quiet strength, her feelings about her family,and how she understands things better that I do. I realized that she was there for her brother helping him to get better. A bond that they shared even before they were born. One that they shared just before she died.

Thankful

As many of you know Brett has been very sick. I want to first thank everyone for their prayers and for fasting. I know the Lord has truly blessed us. Today is Tuesday the 10 Jun. and he is feeling much better. Let me explain what has transpired over the last week. Brittany took Brett to Care Now early Monday morning the 2 Jun the day after their 1st anniversary. Happy Anniversary (yeah right) this headache started on Sunday. They game him 3 shots. Told them that he would probably sleep and be ok....well it didn't help. Brother Ballard came over Monday night and gave him a blessing (so thankful to have the priesthood) Then went to Harris Methodist hospital there we had several shots but no Lumbar Puncture (should have had it done there) But we did not. Got home about 5am or so. I got the prescription filled from the hospital and took alot of it in the 24 hours almost the max that he could take. Went to his primary care Dr on Wed morning and they gave him 2 shots of Imtrex and it did nothing. Went to North Hills Hospital wed night (Brother Cook came and gave him a blessing)because he started throwing up blood (Dr said it could be because he throws up with such force) they gave him several shots and then IV medicine that he had to consult a Neurologist for. Well that neurologist was to busy to see him the next day. Rachel had called and they told her that. Well you don't mess with Rachel's siblings, she is like a fighting tiger when that happens. So Rachel called the primary care Dr back and they recommended Dr MacIntosh (he has been great) they took him on Thursday and he admitted him to the hospital. Brittany has been such a trooper. I know she has been terrified as she watches Brett be very sick. I know she has worried as she is about 20 weeks pregnant and Brett has been so sick and feeling like he could die.
Dr Mac wondered if he might have had pseudo cranial tumor. Where the pressure in your spine builds and makes your body think you have a tumor behind your eyes. But his lumbar puncture came back positive for viral meningitis. Pretty scary, not really any treatment just must wait it out..man has it ever been lonnnggg. Sunday he came in tested his spinal pressure and it was at 48 it had been 42 in his office on Thurs. they drained 4 vials of fluid. Made him better at least it relived the pressure. He started having good stretches and that is what the Dr said would happen. Monday he felt somewhat better and then he started feeling really bad again. Dr Mac came in and said that his liver enzymes were up and that was not good. You know the mom in me started to worry. The meds he is getting is the most this Dr has ever prescribed in his 28 years. Then the nurse manager came in and as we talked she said that that was alot on of meds and she made me more worried. So Brett waited awhile before he took his meds. Then he actually made it all the night he went 14 hours before he needed any more(YEAHHH) then Dr Mac came in and drained more fluid off his back today. And his pressure was down to 29 yipppeee. He said he started to read more about this and he said that there was one case of a girl who had this and she had to have the pressure released from her back once a week for 5 MONTHS.....he said he did not feel that would happen to Brett. So thankful. It looks like we are getting better so excited about that.

Remembering

For a Christmas present in 1988 Rick's brother Gary gave us a wonderful present. He gave our family a trip to Sea World. The kids were all young and we would not have been able to afford such a wonderful trip. You may wonder why I would remember this now? I have always remembered the trip. How much fun we had with the kids. How much they loved it. There are so many memories from that weekend. Thanks Gary, you have always done so much for us.
We went back this past weekend. Rachel, Haylee, Brett and Brittany and Rick and I. Aaron had to work, we were disappointed that he could not join us. The memories came back into my mind on many occasions. When we went to the dolphins and watched them swim. We feed the sea lions, watched Shamu. Then we went to the Mexican Market and walked around, took pictures, even got 1 of Haylee with a hat on. Here a a few pictures of 1989 in the spring. Rachel and Brittany will probably post the other pictures.

Welcome Eden

Lon and Stephanie Kreger had their baby girl on Saturday May 24. What a blessing for them. Her name is Eden Meridith Kreger. How thrilled Meridith would be. How kind and thoughtful for Lon and Stephanie to name her after Meridith. And they even spelled it right(you know how Meridith was about her name). How she would beat Lon if he didn't. (Love ya Lon.) Stephanie looks for beautiful holding her. Thanks to Stephanie's sister we got to see other pictures. What a great family. How lucky Eden is to be born into this great family.

Its been two years

I miss you Meridith.

May 12

Two years ago forever changed our family. We often speak of things in reference of before Meridith died and since Meridith died. Rick went to a baptism on Sat for a family and a year or so ago they had a family member die as well. Terry told Rick that its just a different normal. Which it is. As I look back over the last 2 years I think about the blessings that happened. First when Brett, Luke, and Meridith were in the accident, Brett's first concern was were Meridith was. When he found her, she was not breathing, He being a worthy priesthood holder thought first to give her a blessing. There in the ravine on the freeway he blessed her. Meridith came to and Brett carried her to the top. People in Mexico driving on the toll road stopped and helped and let him use their cell phones to call the US. When he first called me Rachel and I were eating lunch in Irving by the airport( I had been at work, had a break, and had to go back). I know it had to be a difficult call to make. He told me that he and Meridith had been in a accident and they were taking Meridith to the hospital and I needed to come. I told he that we would be there as soon as we could. Rachel was with me and we went outside and I called Rick (he and his brothers were playing golf). Oddly enough Rick had his cell phone and it rang, usually he silences it. He answered it right away. I told him and he and his brothers left right away. I told Rachel that I just wanted to see her alive one more time. She said MOM it'll be ok. I told her I didn't think so. I went back to work and found a supervisor and told him what had happened. I told him that I would stay there, that my family was packing my bag and would bring it to me. I went to work for a few minutes and went back to talk to him again, He gave me the number for the US embassy in Mexico, I called Rick with it.
Meridith was alive when the ambulance got there. Brett held her hand and sung to her while the rushed her to the hospital. I know that other things happened during that ride, things that Brett can not and will not talk about. Meridith died just before they reached the hospital. I know that the next phone call that he made to tell Rick Meridith died had to be the hardest call ever. I called Rick to find out if they had heard form Brett, they told me that they had not but I probably should come home and pack to get ready since the flight was not until about 6pm. I asked Rachel if everything was ok, she said yes, and I made her promise. That was hard for her because she already knew and had to lie to me so that I could make it home ok.
I drove home and called Nora, as we talked I told Nora that I didn't think that I would see Meridith alive again. She said that she would be ok. I said I don't think so. The traffic was the normal traffic there on 820 (for those of you who drive it) Friday afternoon I don't remember 2-3:30 I think. I took me a while to get home. Everyone was worried. I got home and Rick came out to the garage, I knew that Meridith was gone. He never said the words, But I knew. Rachel had called the Bishop's wife. Alison gave Rachel his cell phone number right away, poor Rachel she just lost her sister and had a new baby, but since she is my daughter she started to get things arranged.
Rick called the embassy in Mexico, because Brett had been informed that he was going to be arrested unless he told the police Meridith as driving. The embassy told Rick to tell Brett that he should no longer speak Spanish. Which we thought was odd since Brett speaks it quite well. But if you speak the language then the embassy cannot be there for you through the legal process. Brett had to tell the ambulance drivers that he was instructed to not speak Spanish. The police officer came and took Brett and Luke with him to wait for the Consulate agent to get there. Little did he know he had already been arrested.
Bishop Shuldberg came over and so did our wonderful home teacher Brother Arhets, Rick and I both were given blessings before we left for the airport. Rick's brothers were here and so was my mother. Rick's brother Gary lives in Colorado, he left that evening to drive back home to pick his family up just to back here for Meridith's funeral. Darrell was here what a help he was, he held Haylee was everything was going on which helped Rachel alot.
When we went to the airport, I knew that I couldn't wait in the line and I knew many of the agents working in the terminal, I went to the agent and told them that I needed them to check me in and that our daughter had died and we were leaving to get there. When we got to the gate the supervisor that I had spoken to earlier and the manager on duty who I did not know were there to tell me goodbye and let me know that they cared. When we arrived in Cancun they had a supervisor meet us and get us through customs and immigrations quickly and put us in a taxi to the hotel. Sometime between the airport and hotel I lost my passport. The embassy told us not to go that night to the city in which Brett and Meridith and Luke were because of the fires. So we went to the hotel and the manager had already been notified and he meet us and took us to the room, did some of Brett's laundry for me since we did not know how long we would be there. In the mean time Brett is calling Rachel and they are arresting him and the car rental company is wanting to be paid for the car and we can not be reached. Finally we decide to go to where Brett is and the hotel manager takes us to the bus and taxi station. There is not a bus that takes us directly there so he speaks to the taxis to find on that can take us there. We start driving and it is about 2 hours away. The air is so smoked filled that we could hardly breathe. I finally covered my face with my shirt and went to sleep. In this small town there are 3 different types of police stations. Federal, state and local. We of course don't speak spanish and they don't speak english. We finally got to the right one and after signing the papers, who knows what we agreed to, gave them our thumb prints and the money to have Brett released we were back on our way. The car just barley fit the 4 of us(plus the driver). We stopped back by were the accident happened. I know that this was hard for Brett, we found Luke's notebook and one of Meridith's shoes. We then went straight to the airport and had them put Luke on his flight back to Texas. While here Rachel and Aaron are trying to hold things together. Being out of range with cell phones, having a 6 month old baby and losing a sister Rachel and Aaron held it together quite well. People from the ward came over and as they told them what happened I think it made it easier to tell what happened over and over. One of the hardest ones for Rachel and Aaron to tell was Merina, Meridith's best friend. Rachel took her keys away from her when she first got here, she had thought maybe Meridith came back earlier. They had both been away at school and had not seen one another yet. It was very difficult for Merina.
As everything was happening fast in Mexico and Brett had to talk to everyone to make the arrangements to have Meridith brought back home. He held it together very well. I know that this experience has forever changed him. There are many times that I know he suffers silently and won't tell us. I know that if he could change it he would. I also know that only he could have brought Meridith back. Its a relationship that Brett and Meridith have had before either of them came to earth. Even though while they were in high school together he drove her crazy being the older brother and her the beautiful little sister. We are so blessed to have many people who cared for our family. I know that in Meridith's 19 years she added alot to our family and touched many lives. I know that I feel honored to have been Meridith's mom. She was a unique person. Her smile could light up a room. We all miss her. I'm grateful she took many pictures. She loved her camera. I can look back over her years of picture taking and see all her friends, and how much fun they had. How they loved cars, hanging out, swimming, choir,movies. What a joy they are.